Intra and Interpersonal Skills

Today I am going to stash away what I admit learnt in IIC. I support several skills that would be useful for my future, such as concentrate on positives when I am in bad moods, self-disclosure and giving positive response to criticism for break off communication. However, these are not the most important aspects for me. This is because I cherish more(prenominal) on relationships. Besides, I dont have good relationship with family members. Also, friends cannot always be with me. Therefore, love is the only thing I pursue in my whole life. However, there are lots of barriers on my love path.My lovers just leftfield me very soon and said you are too good for me. I wondered if it is just simply an excuse for breaking up with me. After the ontogeny and Enriching Intimate Relationship lesson, I realized the reason that none of them pauperism to stay with me and commented I am too good for them. This is because I am having neurotic love with them, giving them too much love and so pressure. This is one of the obstacles for love to the lecture notes. On the other hand, we didnt have a mutual direction for our future. We had intimacy and passion but no commitment was involved. The first thing I have to do is self-love.This is because obsessive love only gives pressure to the other person. To have a strong relationship, loving yourself is essential. Then, I have to plan a long-term occasion with that person. I used to have romantic loves. However, that is not I need, what I need is the perfect(a) love. According to Sternbergs Triangular Theory of Love, consummate love includes intimacy, passion and commitment. I will be open and practiced to let my relationship grows healthy. Learning to love doesnt just kick the bucket if we meet the right person. I believe if you want to have a good result, effort is necessary for it, even love.